Don’t Pray For Me

Dont Pray For MeI find it an absolute insult when someone says they will pray for me. Are they saying that they have a problem with my life? That I need their “Lord’s” imaginary assistance? Which Lord is this exactly? For all the Gods in all the world, maybe I don’t want their help.

Don’t pray for me. It is not “all the help I can get”, where is the help exactly? If there is “help” to be given, please give mine to the million children’s hospitals. Give my prayers to them.

Don’t pray for me, don’t waste your Lord’s time with my life. He is way too busy to fix me, besides, there are bigger problems than a person who is gainfully employed and has the love of her family and friends. Aren’t there starving and homeless people on this planet? Give my prayers to them.

Don’t pray for me. I don’t even pray for me. I work for me. I live for me. I’m too busy being me to pray.

Pray for those that need it, right now, I’m just fine.

PS it’s funny that the religions I find the most valuable are never the ones that look upon you with condescension. They don’t need to.

Peace, bitches.


41 thoughts on “Don’t Pray For Me

  1. I consider myself a spiritual person who feels a better link to God without 4 walls and a congregation. I live in an area where people’s religions are as dear to them as their arms, legs and hearts. They will say, “I’ll pray for you,” when they see I’m feeling ill or having some type of problem in my life. They’re the same people who work a 40 hour week, participate in their church functions, give to the poor, and volunteer a the fire department,t food banks and hospitals. When they say to me, “I’ll pray for you,” they’re giving me the highest compliment imaginable to them.

    In the past 23 years living here, I’ve never once had anyone scold me for saying, “I hope you feel better soon/your luck improves” instead of offering a prayer.

    If I’m to expect people to be tolerant of my beliefs and frailties, and if I’m expected to be tolerant of other people’s cultures and religions, I believe that a person’s heartfelt, “I’ll pray for you,” falls within the context of those expectations.

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    • The woman who said it to me recently was trying to save me from “hell”. I will even say that I’ll pray for people because yes, they can be comforting and kind words. People need to hear that sometimes, but not because of a disagreement.

      Thanks for saying that. Gives me a chance to explain πŸ™‚

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      • I deeply appreciate the explanation. It puts the post into perfect context. πŸ™‚

        Years ago, I experienced a similar self-righteous pronouncement by a woman who insisted her religion was the only way to heaven. Telling her the following was only other detail I remember about the encounter: If heaven is full of people like you, I’d rather go to hell.

        That was said out of deep frustration and it did accomplish one important thing. She was so appalled it left her speechless.

        I wish I had as quick a wit now as I had in my 20’s. *sigh*

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    • I’m in the same boat as I commented below briefly before reading what you said. I had not met very religious people of a certain faith not my own until recently, and I’ve come to experience this phrase as a generous gesture of love and affection. The first time, it felt awkward, but afterwards, it seemed warm and comforting: this person cares about my problem and she’s telling me that in the most sincere way she can. I find it very touching. Is it making a difference. Yes, actually. I feel less alone.

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  2. You and I also! Most days I take a lunch time stroll into Oxford to shop and ‘observe’ University students in their black stockings, short skirts and see thru opaque white blouses (very sexy garment the bra……. JUDGE me!!!!!) Where was I? Yes being prayed for, most days I’ll pass a guy standing by his table of Christian publications, spouting off about Jesus through his head mic and handing out leaflets with the accompanying phrase “Good News Jesus loves you!” What? First off I wonder why he isn’t working earning a Pound to pay his Bills with, and secondly WHY are Christians so bloody obsessed with saving souls?

    I’m happy as I am! I DON’T NEED SAVING! (lol rant over, great post)

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  3. There are two kinds of people who say it, I’ve found: the ones who mean it in a very hostile manner, and the ones who are expressing care and concern. I’ve learned the difference. I thank the second kind. The first I think should sod off because they want me to be different somehow than I am.

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  4. Hope over prayer always. Also what really irks me is when people tell you that when someone passes away they are in a better place. Really??!!! If it ‘s such a better place maybe I should kill myself. Peace on.

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  5. I have come to this conclusion: Some will never be happy until everyone believes exactly as they do.
    I tried, when a child, to do good. They began taking me to Baptist meetings in my eighth year. I wanted to be better, to make the Parents and congregation happy. But it seemed that, every single week, some thing I did would, or so I felt, be referenced in the Sunday sermon, and because I liked it, it was a “sin.” Maybe it was my own guilt, I’m not really sure.
    Even in my young adult life, I tried to keep faith, I prayed… sometimes. They did no good at all. I decided I have enough guilt in my life without them telling me everything I do is a sin. No, not everything, but a major percentage of it.

    Now, I will tell someone I don’t need an invisible friend anymore. So, yeah, I totally agree with the title of your post here!
    — John

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  6. Thank you for this post. I really liked it because it challenged me. You see, I am a very religious person. I am strong in my faith and I wholeheartedly believe in the power of prayer, but this article really spoke to me. I know this wasn’t quite what you meant, but reading this really got me thinking about several things.

    First, if i believe in God and want to pray for someone, it should always be in a positive way. Pray for comfort, for peace, and pray because it’s something I think will help, but never use prayer in the way you described. To end an argument over theology, etc.

    Second, I believe whole heartedly in living like Jesus did, but so often i fail at doing just that. It’s great that I want to pray for someone, but have I actually tried to serve them first? Have I done everything in my power to help them where they are? Maybe God put them into my life for a reason other than prayer. Maybe I’m supposed to buy them groceries!

    Third, you’re right about religion failing people. I believe in my God and my Bible, but I see religion failing every single day. It’s sad, but I feel like so often God’s message gets hidden in religion. We are called to love and to serve humbly, and so often that is forgotten. Too often.

    This might sound strange, but I’m sorry for the pain that you and anyone else reading this has felt at the hands of religions and believers in any God. It wasn’t right and though it doesn’t mean a whole lot now, I’d like to apologize. The Bible tells me that followers of Christ are broken people and in our brokenness we can do great harm when we forget why we believe as we do.

    I hope your night is wonderful, and I hope you enjoy this beautiful season. (I love winter). And thank you for reminding me to live like Jesus and to serve people with a humble, quiet spirit, filled with love.

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  7. I was kind of hoping this would be an athetist post (boy are we numerous) but you still imply their prayers would be better used elsewhere, rather than their time better served to actually do good in the world like I would prefer.

    Either way, I agree with the sentiment. Far too many people have “generously” offered to pray for me. As someone who’s entire life is a biblical sin their prayers imply somehow “God” can change who I am (and what makes me happy!) or they are somehow “helping” me. It’s 2016 and you still can’t “pray the gay away” it seems.

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  8. thanks for sharing Skins. Very eloquently put. I agree with you 100%, but couldn’t have said it nearly as well.

    regarding the Bosma tweets, I follow ChristyZ’s combo feed of Molly/Susan/Adam. I find they often repeat each other, but often compliment each other as well. I don’t recall Adam nor Molly invoking the God/prayer BS, but Susan seems to do incessantly. Which is weird, because Susan is otherwise a very intelligent rational journalist, who seems especially dedicated to the facts and evidence, and avoids speculation. So why does she retweet God talk?


    p.s. hope you don’t mind me calling you Skins.

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    • Prefer it with the z (skinz) but any way you wish is perfectly fine πŸ™‚ Hey, truly, the Bosma’s like the prayers, and prayers they shall have. It doesn’t hurt anyone, truly, and it soothes them. πŸ™‚ thanks for coming πŸ™‚

      But agreed that in court, it’s a little odd.


  9. Kindness is the best religion going – but it does require people to get off their asses and be, well, y’know ACTUALLY kind. Direct action is always better than going through a middle man who may or may not exist.

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  10. I live in the South and that’s all you hear; that and Have a blessed day. Don’t fucking tell me what type of day I should have. Don’t think just because I’m breathing air I want you to bless me or send a bullshit prayer to some invisible being who may or may not exist. Don’t use me to make you self feel better.

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